What Would You Look Like if You Were 100% Sexual?

What would you look like if you were to let 100% of your sexual energy flow through you, right now?

Perhaps an image comes to mind that makes you smile. You wouldn’t be alone if you imagine a writhing, screaming, thrusting porn star, which may not be ‘appropriate’ if you are reading this at work.

But I want you to go deeper with that thought. Feel your sexual energy—that strong, connecting, fertile, confidant, hormone-releasing, loving energy—rising out of the center of your body, filling you. You know intuitively how much is deep inside you. What would it feel like and look like if you were to open the doors wide and let your entire being fill with that energy?

Most of the time we massively restrain the sexual energy inside us, to our detriment. But that isn’t surprising in our present day culture. All our social myths and constraints act to limit the amount of sexual energy we allow ourselves to feel—and express.

Even behind closed doors we rarely, if ever, allow FULL, 100% sexual energy out. 

If the thought of letting 100% of your sexual energy flow out through your mind and body makes you uncomfortable, you are not alone.

But sexual energy is life energy. It is the root creative power of all life. It is divinely connected and tremendously fertile in every way. It is good for us. It is ‘food’ for us. It is healing and joy-inducing. It has the power to create lovely, positive, confidant shifts in our ‘wiring’. And when embraced in a way that is honoring of others, it is always positive.

How much sexual energy is flowing out of you at this moment? 

When Willow and I first asked this question of each other we both went blank for a moment, then, after feeling into it, had to admit it wasn’t much higher than 10%.

We, like most people, were not trained to tap into this energy. Or to allow it to flow more freely.

So we challenged each other to express 100% of our sexual energy, right then. 

A warning if you try to do this with a partner: it may induce laughter! 

But a good kind of laughter. 

Like anything, it is productive at first to exaggerate all actions, sounds, expressions, etc, that want to come out. There is no ‘right’ expression, of course. It may evoke a powerful stillness. What comes through you will be as unique as the person you are. Just let it flow! Play with it! 

As humorous as our expression began, the process was extremely instructive and liberating for us.

Two points to make from this.

One, feeling into (being mindful of) our sexual energy allows us to release more of this energy within us during the ‘routine’ moments of every day. The energy will make us more confident, connected and creative at all times. 

Two, exploring what 100% sexual energy flow looks and feels like with a trusted partner helps us experience the full potential of this divinely-gifted power inside us.

Willow and I still have lots to learn about releasing all that powerful, positive energy.

So we encourage ourselves, along with you, to... let ‘er rip

A Call to Men to be Fellow Warriors in Loving the Goddess in Every Woman

Sculpture by Auguste Rodin, 1889.

Sculpture by Auguste Rodin, 1889.

My brothers, why do we need to be so possessive?

Why do we need be so constrained with our women? Do we not see benefit in partnership? Can we not be stronger when united together?

I will be the first to admit I cannot be everything to my wife. I need brothers to work together with, as a ‘team’ of lovers, in order to fully love every part of her. I will admit that. 

Why do we have to be so possessive of our women? 

And further, why in fact do we need to know if a child is our own? Is it not a blessing that any child is brought into our world? Period. And our role—all of us—as men, as fathers, is to father each child. Can we not all be fathers? All be husbands. All be lovers. 

I seek other men to bond with my wife, to be part of our tribe. Her tribe. She will not experience the fullness of who she is through loving experience with me only. She needs variation. She needs to be listened to, cherished, counseled and held in different ways. She needs to be given love with different subtleties. She needs other loving husbands. I cannot minister to everything that my wife is, so I seek partners in this very high calling. 

That high calling, my brothers, is to love each woman in the fullest way possible, to birth the fullness of Mother God in every woman, to allow each woman to expand into her fullest potential. There is something in birthing the fullness of “Goddess” in our women that births a deeper, more rounded, more right experience of our connection to each other, to our planet and to the Universe as a whole. 

So I invite you, my brothers, to become one of my wife’s husbands. I willingly share her beauty with you. She is a gift to me, so she will be a gift to you as well. I will cherish her intimate experiences with you. I will love what you bring to her. I will have no envy or jealousy. I will take joy in the expansion that you bring to her. 

Because I too, my brothers, will benefit from the ways in which you love her. I will benefit from her expansion, from her opening up, from the growing confidence in her beauty, from the softening and enrichment of her spirit that she experiences within the loving sexual energy of other men. I will benefit from the ‘intelligence’ and wisdom you stimulate in her vagina.

I will take great joy in that my brothers. Never worry about what I’ll think. I’ll cheer you on, I’ll give you a chest to chest hug and say kiss her, love her, activate her womb, activate her yoni, open her up in your own special way, whether that be softly or with great strength and urgent desire. Whatever your particular way of loving is. I will embrace you my brother and thank you for your partnership, for being a fellow warrior in birthing and nurturing the Goddess in my wife.

In the same way I say to every woman, whether partnered or single, why is it that I can’t be one of your husbands as well? And not just me. I am sure other men would love to be a member of your tribe of lovers as well. Your tribe of men who cherish you and make love to you. Your tribe of men who minister to the divine temple of your womb. Your tribe of men who worship at your altar, who bring out, through each of our different spectrums, something different in the gorgeous woman that you are. 

Would you not like to have more than one husband committed to this purpose?

Why can’t I be part of your brotherhood of lovers—the lovers of you—committed to enhancing the beauty of Mother God in you. We together, as brothers, want to take you to a place where you feel no lack, where your womb is fully enlivened, energizing your mind, body and soul. 

I want to be part of your tribe of men, your tribe of male lovers, your tribe of men who are committed to providing a safe, free and beautiful environment for you to flourish in, to grow in your nurturing power, to grow in your loving intuition. 

Let us join together, my brothers and sisters, in building a love bond between the women and men of our tribe.  Let us embrace the joy of having more than one husband or wife who loves us, who cherishes us, who will uphold us, who will seek the expansion of Mother God—the full, connected beauty of the Universe—in each of us.